Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory Paperback – December 8, 2023

I recently learned about the various attachment styles and how they impact almost every area of your life.Someone suggested I read this book by Thais Gibson to learn about the four different attachment styles and identify the one I fall into.Gibson not only breaks down each attachment style but also explains the root causes that lead a person to fall into one of the four categories.The biggest benefit of this book is that you can analyze and understand the origins of your core wounds, recognize how to heal from them, and move toward more healthy behaviors.Gibson also includes areas in the book where you can be proactive in your approach, providing sections where you can write down your specific wounds, pinpoint your needs, and establish healthy boundaries.The book is only 140 pages, so I was able to finish it in two days, but I'm far from being done with it. The first time you read through, you learn the information. Subsequent readings help you comprehend the material more clearly and implement what you've gained into your daily life.This book can really help mend broken relationships, but it requires effort from the reader. The words on the page outline strategies for improving relationships, but you still have to take the initiative and do the work.Some of the chapters were a gut-check. Confronting the issues that make up your attachment style can be difficult. However, working through those challenging areas of your life is a necessity if you truly want to better yourself.After reading this book, I'm not magically better right away, and I don't think that's the point. What I take away from Gibson's writing is greater insight into my core wounds, how to communicate my needs effectively, and, ultimately, how to move into a more secure attachment style.This is a fantastic book for personal growth and a way to improve your relationships, whether with your spouse or even damaged friendships.

This book is one of the best reads ever! If you want to better understand your behaviors & those you love I highly recommend!!! The best part is there are TOOLS that can be learned to CHANGE & HEAL! I now follow Thais podcasts weekly & continue to grow personally as well as in my relationships! Worth the investment!!!

Dr. Thais Gibson has a great way of helping you understand the anxious avoidant cycle. This book is also ask thought provoking questions at the end of each chapter to help on your path to healing. A must read for those ready to do the work. I wish I had understood the anxious avoidant dynamic years ago. My book is pretty worn as I keep it with me to reflect when needed.

This book was super helpful specifically when it comes to communication. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is struggling

I'm only part way thru, but am learning new things

Great Book!

I'm a few classes shy of being a mental health counselor. I learned of the author when she was a guest on Dr. Aimie's podcast. I bought two of her books. This was one of them. I love that readers not only learn the styles of attachment, but they also learn how to reset. I suspect attachment styles are at the root of a lot of what we carry emotionally. I highly recommend this book.The first line in chapter 2 says something about we can only see as clearly as the lens we see ourselves through. That struck me profoundly. My parents were emotionally unavailable. My mom was dysregulated. My dad was absent and dismissive repeatedly. So kids would naturally internalize feelings of unworthiness. And that's how my lens was set.One year after my dad died, he visited in a dream. I was perched up in the corner of a room with my camera, which tends to be something I use to see the world and the universe. In my dream, my dad walked in... reached up... and adjusted my lens.When I read that line in Chapter 2, I made the connection. He came back to reset the lens he distorted.Buy the book. Make the changes. Emerge and become who you are meant to become!

I recommend this book to everyone I care about or to whom I think will benefit from it. There’s learning attachment theory, then there’s doing the work to heal and become securely attached. This is the roadmap to healing that’s missing from every other book I’ve read on attachment theory. When I learned I was a Fearful Avoidant, I also learned from many sources that you CANT change this attachment style… when someone tells me I can’t do something I automatically decide the opposite is true. I searched YouTube until I found Thais Gibson, who was also once a Fearful Avoidant and now earned secure. She was the only expert proclaiming that you can, in fact, change your attachment style, even a fearful avoidant. Without her I might be lost. I’m so grateful for her and the work she has done to help people like me who are branded by many as “hopeless”. I bought five copies and gave them to various people and close friends. I can’t recommend this book enough. I’m also in her online course called the Personal Development School. The course along with this book are serious game changers.